Envy is a lousy trait to have, it can cause unwanted animosity and create rage. The same friends that smile in your face could be hiding behind a mask to cover up the little green monster. Thus, here are seven signs that your friend is jealous of you.
1.) Never compliment you
These friends never seem to like any of your posts on social media. They’ll follow all your accounts, watch your story but as soon as you post that selfie or that cute full body photo they will never double tap or hit the like button. If you go to a party together or hit the bars, usually friends will compliment how you look but not these friends. Making a comment on how cute your outfit is, or how nice your hair and makeup looks is like a chore to them, hard for them to do. When you accomplish something, win something or do great things they never congratulate you or even acknowledge it. Not that you need your friend’s validation but real friends hype each other up, make each other feel good about themselves.
2.) Amplify your mistakes
These friends seem happy to see you fail. They’ll celebrate at your failures too. They may make comments like “I agree….. I felt that you deserved it”. They hate to see you win but get great joy in seeing you fail. They will constantly bring up mistakes you’ve made in the past to bring you down in the present. They do this because they want you to feel bad about yourself so that you feel inadequate. They refuse to acknowledge your growth and want to keep you stuck in the past.
3.) Spread your business
You could tell your friend some personal things out of confidence, but they will disrespect your confidentiality and tell everyone they know your personal business. You may hear your business from a person you haven’t even told and wonder how on earth could they have found that out. They do this to bring you down; they want others to view you in a bad light so they will speak badly on your behalf to tarnish your name and character.
4.) Make up rumors about you
Jealous friends need a reason to hate you so they will create scenarios, and tell it to other people to make you look bad. They want a reason to pick a fight with you. They will twist your words and accuse you of saying things you did not say. They usually make you out to be this villain so that others will stop liking you.
5.) Haven’t really liked you since the beginning
Since the first time you met each other there seemed to be this tension going on, and these ill feelings toward you. They seemed to have this problem with you that they aren’t stating but are not good at hiding. You may have this gut feeling that they secretly dislike you. Chances are your intuition isn’t lying to you.
6.) Always trying to compete with you
No matter the circumstance they always have to one-up you in some way. If the attention is on you in anyway, they will try to take the attention off of you to be put on them. They will wait for you to mess up because that is a golden opportunity to make themselves look better. They will use your downfall as a way to step on you to reach the top, and to boost their image or character.
7.) Accuse you of thinking you are better than everyone else
Whenever a person tells you, “You think you’re better than everybody!” that person is projecting, they think you ARE better than them. They are jealous of your confidence and mindset because they wish they had it themselves. Because they lack confidence they will accuse you of being cocky or conceited.
Jealous friends are no different than haters, just confused fans. They secretly like and admire you, wish they had what you had and hate you because they don’t have it like it’s your fault. They follow your social media accounts to watch from afar waiting to see if you have failed yet. Once you start looking happy with your life they will come around to kill your joy. They hate to see you happy, they want you to be miserable like them. They are like that Ex that comes around when you’ve moved on.
The best way to handle these friends is to start keeping your distance from them, don’t share with them your personal business, spend less time hanging around them, remove them from your social media and ignore them when they pick fights with you. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them, if they are jealous they are toxic, and toxic people drain our energy, rub off on us and slow us down.